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LETTER FROM A MOTHER TO A DAUGHTER

  • LETTER FROM A MOTHER TO A DAUGHTER:

"My dear girl, the day you see I’m getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I’m going through.

If when we talk, I repeat the same thing a thousand times, don’t interrupt to say: “You said the same thing a minute ago”... Just listen, please. Try to remember the times when you were little and I would read the same st
ory night after night until you would fall asleep.

When I don’t want to take a bath, don’t be mad and don’t embarrass me. Remember when I had to run after you making excuses and trying to get you to take a shower when you were just a girl?

When you see how ignorant I am when it comes to new technology, give me the time to learn and don’t look at me that way... remember, honey, I patiently taught you how to do many things like eating appropriately, getting dressed, combing your hair and dealing with life’s issues every day... the day you see I’m getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I’m going through.

If I occasionally lose track of what we’re talking about, give me the time to remember, and if I can’t, don’t be nervous, impatient or arrogant. Just know in your heart that the most important thing for me is to be with you.

And when my old, tired legs don’t let me move as quickly as before, give me your hand the same way that I offered mine to you when you first walked.

When those days come, don’t feel sad... just be with me, and understand me while I get to the end of my life with love.

I’ll cherish and thank you for the gift of time and joy we shared. With a big smile and the huge love I’ve always had for you, I just want to say, I love you... my darling daughter."

- Unknown
     
     
    LETTER FROM A MOTHER TO A DAUGHTER:

    "My dear girl, the day you see I’m getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I’m... going through.

    If when we talk, I repeat the same thing a thousand times, don’t interrupt to say: “You said the same thing a minute ago”... Just listen, please. Try to remember the times when you were little and I would read the same st
    ory night after night until you would fall asleep.

    When I don’t want to take a bath, don’t be mad and don’t embarrass me. Remember when I had to run after you making excuses and trying to get you to take a shower when you were just a girl?

    When you see how ignorant I am when it comes to new technology, give me the time to learn and don’t look at me that way... remember, honey, I patiently taught you how to do many things like eating appropriately, getting dressed, combing your hair and dealing with life’s issues every day... the day you see I’m getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I’m going through.

    If I occasionally lose track of what we’re talking about, give me the time to remember, and if I can’t, don’t be nervous, impatient or arrogant. Just know in your heart that the most important thing for me is to be with you.

    And when my old, tired legs don’t let me move as quickly as before, give me your hand the same way that I offered mine to you when you first walked.

    When those days come, don’t feel sad... just be with me, and understand me while I get to the end of my life with love.

    I’ll cherish and thank you for the gift of time and joy we shared. With a big smile and the huge love I’ve always had for you, I just want to say, I love you... my darling daughter."

    - unknown
     
    I added the following on August 7, 2013:

     

    I remember when my grandmother really started losing her memory and one of her daughters would argue with her and continually correct her. I thought "What does it matter? Let her tell her stories and just enjoy her memories (whether they are accurate or not)."

    Numerous times she called me by the wrong name and I just acknowledged her, gave her a hug and kiss and went on with the conversation. Sometimes she would say "Oh, you aren't Larry, your Than! I am getting old," and I would say "That is alright Grandmother." At times my name changed throughout the visit and it didn't hurt me one bit to go along.

    I understand it was much harder on her kids and I do not look forward to dealing with it myself, but it is part of life and my parents have done so much for me.

     
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     If you are searching for a property in McClain County (Cities: Purcell, Washington, Goldsby, Wayne, Dibble and Byars) or Cleveland County (Cities: Norman, Lexington, Noble and Slaughterville) I can help you find what you are looking for!

     

    As a Real Estate Professional I specialize in listing and selling residential real estate.  Whether those are new homes, resales, foreclosures, Real Estate Owned (REOs) or short sales, I can help you find your new home or sell your current property.

    I also handle farms, ranches, raw land and commercial properties.

Licensed to SELL - Dedicated - Experienced - Honest - Than Maynard - Purcell, OK

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Coldwell Banker Heart of Oklahoma Real Estate
1726 N Green Avenue, Purcell, OK 73080
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Comment balloon 14 commentsThan Maynard • August 05 2013 07:45AM

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Nice post. Thanks for sharing this letter. I hope you are creating fond memories for your family and friends this week.

Posted by Roy Kelley (Realty Group Referrals) about 6 years ago

Such a wonderful reminder to all children, whether it concerns their Mother or Father.  It reminds me of how I am with Mickey at times.

Posted by Roger D. Mucci, Lets shake things up at your home today! (Shaken...with a Twist 216.633.2092) about 6 years ago

As kids with aging parents...we need to put ourselves in opur parents shoes.

Posted by William Feela, Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No. (WHISPERING PINES REALTY) about 6 years ago

Great post and you posted it today, the day that my mother passed away.....20 years ago. Thank you!

Posted by Barbara-Jo Roberts Berberi, MA, PSA, TRC - Greater Clearwater Florida Residential Real Estate Professional, Palm Harbor, Dunedin, Clearwater, Safety Harbor (Charles Rutenberg Realty) about 6 years ago

Than, That is simply beautiful and so true.  I am going through this with my mom know and know it was my calling.  She seriously "tests" me over and over and has my whole life.  Patience is one of those gifts I have been blessed with!

Posted by Christine O'Shea (Christine E O'Shea Broker-Associate) about 6 years ago

What a  great post and it is still there almost 7 yrs later after you posted it. Where did you find the poem?

Posted by 1~Laura Filip, What can we do for you today? (1~Laura Filip Broker , Opening doors for All Seasons of Life ) about 6 years ago

Laura: It was posted on Facebook and I thought it was so accurate and sweet.

I remember when my grandmother really started losing her memory and one of her daughters would argue with her and continually correct her. I thought "What does it matter? Let her tell her stories and just enjoy her memories (whether they are accurate or not)."

Numerous times she called me by the wrong name and I just acknowledged her, gave her a hug and kiss and went on. Sometimes she would say "Oh, you aren't Larry, your Than! I am getting old." and I would and "That is alright Grandmother." At times my name changed throughout the visit and it didn't hurt me one bit to go along.

I understand it was much harder on her kids and I do not look forward to dealing with it myself, but it is part of life and my parents have done so much for me.

Posted by Than Maynard, Broker - Licensed to List & Sell - 405-990-8862 (Coldwell Banker Heart of Oklahoma) about 6 years ago

Than, I've been through this with my Grandmother and I wish I would have been more patient.

Posted by Laura Giannotta, Your Realtor Down the Shore! (Keller Williams Realty - Atlantic Shore ) about 6 years ago

Than thank you for replying to my comment it is always nice to hear back. I agree with you, we love our family and why bother saying anything when the call you by another name that is just something that happens. As we grow older it would be great to have someone to care for us help us through the memory loss.Thanks again for sharing have a blessed day

Posted by 1~Laura Filip, What can we do for you today? (1~Laura Filip Broker , Opening doors for All Seasons of Life ) about 6 years ago
Than, what a great tribute to seniors and the proper way to respect them. It won't be long till our kids think we are "old".
Posted by Mike Frazier, Northwest Tennessee Realtor (Carousel Realty of Dyer County) about 6 years ago

Laura: Your welcome. I don't respond to every post, just those that ask questions or strike a spark. Thanks for stopping by again!

Mike: My kids already think I am old and compared to most of their friend's parents....I am old!

Posted by Than Maynard, Broker - Licensed to List & Sell - 405-990-8862 (Coldwell Banker Heart of Oklahoma) about 6 years ago

Than, I am almost 57 with a 19 yr old and a 16 yr old.

Posted by Mike Frazier, Northwest Tennessee Realtor (Carousel Realty of Dyer County) about 6 years ago

This is beautiful and I want to reblog it, too, Than.  Thanks!

Posted by Ron Marshall, Birdhouse Builder Extraordinaire (Marshall Enterprises) about 6 years ago

Hi Than, this letter from a mother to a daughter made me cried. I am so far away from my mom I can't even give her a hug. Thanks for sharing. 

Posted by Kwee Huset, Venice Florida Homes For Sale (Kwee Huset Realty) about 6 years ago

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